“I can’t believe it’s already the end of the year!”

Do you ever find yourself exclaiming this as we roll through autumn and into winter?

Where days, months and years felt like they went at a snail’s pace in our early life, they seem to only speed up as we age.

This December, in between the carol concerts, school fairs and Christmas shopping, I encourage you to do one thing for yourself. Consider these two simple questions and start two lists that will make you feel a little bit more like you’ve got a handle on next year:


  • What do I want to do more of in 2023?
  • What do I want to do less of in 2023?


It’s as simple as that.

You can use the past to influence your future. You can choose to get rid of anything that isn’t working for you and do more of the things that are. After all, as Mahatma Gandhi said:


The future depends on the steps you take today.


The rules:


Listen to your instinct:

Write down what comes first and then sleep on it. More will come.

Don’t compare:

Your lists are as unique as you are.

No idea is a bad idea:

Get them all down. You can make them into a more concrete plan later.

Be bold:

If there’s anything that won’t go away, maybe it’s time to do something about it.

And if you’d like a few more questions to help shape another extraordinary year of being you in 2023, then you can download My Extraordinary Plan.



Make 2023 count. Make it the best one yet.


Emily Bal is a partner coach with Careering into Motherhood.