Let’s get one thing straight…becoming a Mum didn’t FORCE me to change up my life and career!

I vividly remember the week I handed in my notice at work and announced that I was setting up my own coaching practice…a senior male colleague quite candidly said “Awww, were you just not able to make it work alongside the kids?!”

Those words still grind my gears to this day in how they automatically put me into ‘that box’ alongside ‘all those other Mums’ who ‘jumped ship’ because they ‘couldn’t hack the pace’.

As if as Mothers, we just aren’t capable of adapting (because – God Forbid – the ‘system’ should flex for us!).

As if birthing and raising kids automatically comes with a side of amputated ambition where, as soon as those beautiful babes fall out of us our ambition falls out with it.

It’s a really stinky narrative that has been hanging about and weighing women down for way too long now. And it’s a level of conditioning that has sunk its claws in so deep that I think even as women ourselves, we have been indoctrinated to fear and believe that having kids is synonymous with an end to achieving our dreams and aspirations as women.

What a bloody tragic horror story that is, right?!

And it’s a tale we need to challenge from the goddam rooftops until the world starts to see Motherhood as something so much MORE…

** AS AN INVITATION AND OPPORTUNITY TO BEGIN AN EPIC NEW CHAPTER **

Did Motherhood shake up my sense of identity and re-calibrate my priorities?! Sure it did!

But it also subsequently invited me to really get to know myself and ultimately make some big bold choices about the life I REALLY wanted to live.

If I’m honest with myself, I’d fallen out of love with my career quite a long time before becoming a Mum. But I suppose I hadn’t been faced with a ‘good enough’ or urgent enough reason to make a change.

 

 

But motherhood was absolutely the big, urgent motivation I needed to realise that things needed to change, and that I deserved to feel more fulfilled than I did

  • Because I didn’t like the version of me that was showing up day in day out
  • Because I wanted more for myself
  • Because I wanted my kids to realise that THEY could want so much more for themselves and their own lives too

So Motherhood prompted me to take a long hard look at myself in the mirror. And it spurred me on make the big, bold, brave changes to my life that I hadn’t DARED to consider beforehand. It was a VIP invitation to do my experience of life and Motherhood justice.

But NOT because Motherhood made my current life feel impossible, and NOT because I couldn’t have made it work if I’d wanted to.

But because suddenly life took on a whole new sense of meaning – and because I wanted to grab MORE of THAT with both hands.

For my kids, for myself…and as it turned out, for all the other Mothers out there too (including YOU!)

Your next epic chapter is waiting for you! And don’t let ANYONE tell you that being a Mum means that’s not possible for you! If you find yourself wondering ‘Is this as good as it gets for me?’ and have a strong sense that you want more for yourself and your life – then please know you don’t have to settle. And you also don’t have to figure it all out alone either.

Get in touch today or book a free chat with me HERE and let’s explore how we can get your epic next chapter underway – WHILE honouring ALL your integrity as a parent. It doesn’t need to be a choice.

Tamsin Williamson is a holistic life and mindset coach, empowering ambitious but unfulfilled Mums to reignite their passion, purpose and potential after kids, and unlock their next epic chapter unapologetically on THEIR terms alongside Motherhood.

Find out more about her and ways you can work with her here.

September 23, 2024