Blimey!  That’s a mighty big word.  Empower! Standard dictionary definition is ‘people having power or control over their lives’.

Do you?

I mean, do you – all the time – have control over your life?

If you do, how do you do it?  What gives you that sense of control?

You may feel like you’re acing elements of your life roles, your relationships, your communication skills, your ability to get things done. Or you may not! If we are stuck in the mindset of thinking that we have to be in an ‘empowered’ state in order to succeed, then you’re missing a very big trick.  In order to feel and be empowered, we have to also be disempowered!

My take on empowerment goes like this.

If you want to feel empowered in your life, you have to become aware firstly of what empowerment looks like to you, either now, in the past or in the future.  Bring it clearly and vociferously to mind and feel it in your body.

  • How do you feel?
  • What are you doing?
  • What’s going on around you?
  • What action are you taking?

Then, when you’ve got that .. to have true control, you have to experience what you do when you’re not empowered. Choose a word that reflects this for you authentically.  I chose ‘free spirit’.  Again, bring that clearly and vibrantly into your mind’s eye.

  • What are you doing as a ‘free spirit’?
  • What are you feeling?
  • Who is around you?
  • What are you learning?

You now have a sense of two opposing internal states and what gifts each brings you.  My venn diagram can help you

The truth is, to be truly empowered you need a solid foundation of awareness (this exercise may have helped you with that).  Next, an understanding how both these opposing ‘states’ complement and inform each other (you can’t have one without the other);  and finally the agility to be able to oscillate between both with awareness, updating your knowledge bank with each visit.

So, when you’re grasping for that feeling of control, I encourage you to first take a visit to the land of the free spirit.


This article was written by   Teresa  Klasener one of our partner coaches who helps clients who are feeling uncertain with their direction, to recalibrate and relaunch with vision, clarity and renewed peace of mind. You can get in touch via her profile page.