In this blog, we take a look at four areas of our lives that when we work on them, it can help us improve our resilience to everything else that happens in our lives.


I’m using Stephen Covey’s framework from Habit 7:


Sharpen the Saw, as it’s easy to think about each of the four dimensions: physical, mental, spiritual, and social/ emotional and then apply them in our own lives.




This is not about weight loss but changes that will give you a longer, healthier life. Think about the big picture. If you carry on as you do now, what will be the impact on your health in 20 or 40 years’ time? If you don’t like the answer, then it’s time to make some changes.

Find which physical activity you enjoy doing, make time for it and commit to it. I recently started to do a group paid exercise class. I knew I could do these exercises at home, but something about booking, paying and doing it with others made me commit and I now look forward to it.




Learning gives you a connection to the world around you and gives you something to talk about with others. I believe that sharing your interests, makes you interesting. I encourage everyone to pick up a book, listen to a podcast, read from your phone – anything that gives you knowledge, a new perspective or a new opinion.

Writing is also an essential part of learning because of the self-reflection it gives you. Having a journal, gratitude diary, something to write down and think about what is going on for you, whether that’s how you’re feeling, or what you think about certain topics, will help you so that when you do come to share your opinions with people, you have a sense of clarity.




People come to spirituality in many different ways, as essentially it’s any activity that centres or grounds you. Be it prayer, meditation, reading, listening to music, being outdoors or any other mindful activity.  Again, it’s making time to do something that is perhaps unfamiliar but try it for a few minutes a day – it will make all the difference.


Social/ Emotional


This dimension goes deeper than making time to be sociable and having fun (although that is important). It’s more about living your life in tune with what you value and making a difference to others around you. It encompasses how you behave in every interpersonal connection you have so that you make the most of your relationships. It also includes service – the things we can do to selflessly serve others – whether it be people in our family, our jobs, community or charities. It gives us a greater sense of fulfillment in our lives.

I admit there are no quick fixes here, but by exploring your activities in each of these areas and incorporating them into your life, you can build up resilience to face the challenges that come.


If you found this article inspires you to make some changes and you’d like support in doing this, please email me at to discuss coaching.