How I overcame imposter syndrome, Alice Draper


Have you ever had that feeling when you’ve performed well at work that it was down to luck, or perhaps it was a fluke? Or even worried about feeling you will get found out for not being as good as others thought you were?


Yep, me too. That’s imposter syndrome. It is a psychological pattern making you doubt your skills and accomplishments and having a fear of being exposed as a fraud.


A study by KPMG in 2020 found that 75% of women commonly experience imposter syndrome so you are not alone.


Before I became a career coach, imposter syndrome was a regular occurrence in my work outlook. I worked in head office retail as a merchandiser. I worked my way up the ranks quickly managing teams of people with massive buying budgets and working with important suppliers. Someone clearly had confidence in my abilities but I can’t say I always did. I then had a baby and with my confidence at an all time low about returning to work, mixed with big company shake ups, I felt I was a shadow of my former self.


My biggest fear: Will my colleagues realise I don’t know what I’m talking about?


Fast forward to now... I have since changed careers and now work for myself, and my imposter syndrome is practically non-existent.


So what’s changed? Here are my tips:



1) Support from others


I’m not saying I didn’t have support when I was in my previous career, but accessing the support I needed was sometimes mistimed. Now I actively seek support from my peers, friends and family to lift me up when I’m feeling low. I ask for opinions and (positive!) feedback. I speak to people close to me when I have doubt. I don’t let it manifest inside of me. The community of support from others lifts my confidence.



2) Having some me time


This may seem impossible being a mother (when your little one won’t leave you alone even when you go to the loo!). I take a bit of time every week to do something for me that I love. It may be a short walk with a podcast or talking to a close friend on the phone. Taking that little bit of time out from work and being a mum, not only helps with my productivity but also helps my self belief.



3) Knowing myself better


This is probably the biggest influence of reducing my imposter syndrome. Before I became a career coach, I used a career coach. Through the sessions, we explored me at my best - conditions that make me thrive, my skills and strengths, what motivates me and what is important to me (I adopt a very similar approach to how I coach now). Not only did I feel like I knew myself so much better but through this I found my dream career. I always loved developing and coaching my team and wanted flexibility, so becoming a career coach and a business owner allowed me to do more of what I love and am good at. Confidence is certainty.



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This article was written by career coach, Alice Draper.