Do you struggle making decisions?

Decision-making can be difficult and we often focus on what happens if I make the ‘wrong’ decision. We always want to make the ‘right’ decision but tend to focus on what might happen if it goes wrong.

This is usually in the absence of any real evidence. We can be so binary – black/ white, good/ bad, heaven/ hell, right/ wrong but this binary view can really hold us back.

Here are four ways to help…

 

1. Align your decision to your values

 

This is one of the best ways to make sure you make the ‘right’ decision. Values are like your inner GPS and will always guide you in the right direction.

 

2. Depersonalise it

 

Imagine a loved one came to you with their dillemma… What advice would you give them? Apply this to your own thinking.

 

3. Just do it

 

The worst decision you can make is no decision. We can spend so long in our heads weighing up pros and cons, pondering on ‘what ifs’, and losing so much time.

 

4. Identify what is stopping you

 

Often it is fear that is holding us back. Do you have evidence to support the fear or is it just False Expectations Appearing Real?

Remember you’ll never be as young as you are today and timing will never be perfect. Don’t be held back by ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. Whatever decision you make is right AT THAT TIME.

 

Move out of your comfort zone, make a decision and if things don’t happen to work out how you expected, evaluate what didn’t go so well, consider this evidence and then make another decision.


Michelle O’Sullivan is a partner coach with Careering into Motherhood.